5 Things I Learnt From The Book ‘Think Again’

If you aren’t interested in the title of the book Think Again. You might want to reconsider and duh Think Again!

Or realistically speaking at least check out the last chapter, ‘Actions for impact’ and, then listen to the prologue. It will just make you want to listen or read the whole book. I am just saying this for those who might not be interested in this book. Personally, I am a big fan of Adam Grant’s work. I won’t say that I know all of his work but some of it has helped me think and think again, and that doesn’t just go for this book.

So, here’s the 5 Things I think I got out from the book.

1. Instead of asking why? Question yourself how?

The Why can more often than not, make you fall into a deep rabbit hole and instead of seeking out new ways to do things. You deepen your reasons for your beliefs and embed them in your subconscious.

2. Out of the box thinking is difficult because it exposes you and sheds your identity. Refer to the firefighter example mentioned in the epilogue.

3. To persuade others, it’s better to ask rational questions that help see the situation through different lenses and big picture views than piling up the facts alone. Lesson from the 8 year old in Think Again.

4. Less is more! It’s better to have 3 days of solid work out routine rather than 7 days of sub par days. It’s better to have 3 focused hours of deliberate practise than 7 hours of gruelling underperformance.

5. Coaching involves helping others reach their own decisions, it’s not about trying to dictate or control other person’s decisions. Great mentors, coaches and motivational speakers are better listeners. They know how to listen and respond with appropriate questions. They guide others by empowering them with knowledge, self-discovery and helping others reach their own conclusions rather than providing them with answers or suggesting what they ought to do.

There’s much more in this book. In this moment however, these 5 ideas can help me ask the right questions of myself and those around me, in order to improve and overcome fear and anxiety. 

Image: Bookcover Think Again

I have learnt a lot from these books

So as promised, I have been wanting to share my booklist. In this booklist, I will share the books that have helped me with psychology and self-development. I don’t read 52 books a year like an average CEO, but I do think I read quite a lot for my lifestyle. I listen more than I read. By the way, if you are a blog reader, I talk about a lot of different books in my blogs too…you just have to be willing to read and find the diamonds among the pile of treasure ๐Ÿ˜‰ haha… am not for self-praise but you see what I done there ๐Ÿ˜€

Anyhow, if you want to grow, develop your character, learn more about yourself, your business, or even just reflect on life and understand the world through different perspectives. I would recommend checking out these books. These are my top favourites in psychology/ self-development genre not in any particular order though.

  1. The Examined Life ( How we lose and find ourselves) by Stephen Grosz
  2. The Chimp Paradox by Prof Steve Peters
  3. Option B By Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant (I am a big fan of Adam Grant’s work)
  4. Give and Take by Adam Grant (You see what I mean lol)
  5. Originals by Adam Grant ( on my wish list is his latest book Think Again)
  6. Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins
  7. Principles by Ray Dalio
  8. Atomic Habits by James Clear
  9. Deep Work by Cal Newport
  10. Focus by Daniel Goleman ( I am a big fan of Daniel Goleman’s work on EQ)
  11. Primal Leadership by Daniel Goleman
  12. Maximum Willpower by Kelly McGonigal
  13. The Crowd Study of the Popular mind By Gustave Le Bon
  14. How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie
  15. A Hero with a Thousand Faces (Joseph Campbell) I know this is philosophy genre, but there is lots to learn from this book.
  16. Thus Spoke Zarathustra by Friedrich Nietzsche
  17. Beyond Good and Evil by Friedrich Nietzsche
  18. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy by Jason M. Satterfield
  19. Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman ( This is a classic)
  20. Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza
  21. 12 Rules for Life by Jordan B Peterson
  22. Maps of Meaning by Jordan B Peterson

Instead of including any external links, I will let you search for these books. Most are available on Amazon, Audible, Waterstones or any other book store. I have some of the above books in hard copy and some in audible version. Basically the easiest way to get them in possession ahaha. Nietzsche is quite difficult to comprehend but there is value there to be found if you keep an open mind. They say there is a thin line between insanity and a genius mind. Wow… these are just some of the books I have read since 2018. Before that I used to read fiction only.

I stopped reading fiction for a while, but I still do from time to time. Maybe next time I will share some of my favourite fictional novels.

While you are here, check out my previous post on How to read a book! ๐Ÿ“–

Sleep/Dream Learning

It’s happened twice, or probably many times but two instances where I have a clear memory of what I learnt in the dream.

Have you ever fallen asleep while listening to an audiobook? Or listening to a podcast? Something similar along the lines of lucid dreaming, which I experience often when I fall asleep listening to stuff. In those dreams however, I know that I fell asleep listening to whatever I am at that time and be able to use that to shape my own dreams. Or influence the dream via whatever I happen to be listening to.

However, in these instances, it was just a dream, a dream where I am dreaming and, the podcast sets the stage for the dream and shapes it.

The first time it happened I was just an observer, the host and the guest on the stage. I am the only person in the audience and watching the show live. I had the dream probably, because I recognise the voices so well, that I was able to picture them in my dream. Or the voices and content that I can relate to perhaps took shape in my dream. I didn’t dream the complete podcast both times, just the bits perhaps that I could relate to most or probably something my subconscious wanted to hear most. Hmm, writing it down made me realise this, I never thought much of it before, never particularly thought why I would hear just part of the podcasts and not the rest. This seems to make more sense now. Trying to find links for the podcast so I can tell the whole story ha-ha.

The podcast’s called Work Life with Adam Grant and the first episode I saw in my dream was How to Love Criticism. The bit that I saw in my dream is where Adam Grant is having a conversation with Ray Dalio, I am standing as the only person in audience and listening to their conversation, the stage is dimly lit, with curtains folded to both sides, there’s two chairs in the centre of the stage about 4 metres apart, there is a drum set behind the chairs, aligned perfectly in the middle. No one is playing the drums, but the music is on, now and then. The discussion is obviously about Ray’s idea of meritocracy and how to respond to criticism in a positive way. Using the criticism to improve your decisions, ideas and thinking.

The second podcast which I dreamt about earlier is once more Work Life with Adam Grant but a different episode. Bonus: Relationships at Work with Esther Perel. In this dream, I fell asleep listening to the latest episode, but when this episode came on, my dream begun. Esther was the mother, Adam Grant looked like a college graduate and I was a small kid around 9-10 years old but with the same intellect and wisdom I hold as an adult. Not trying to praise myself here ha-ha, but for some reason I seemed to be thinking of responses to their discussions in my head and listening intently. Esther was having a discussion with her children and for some reason I only remember Adam Grant’s college version, her other two kids were sitting in the circle somewhere in the background. I was sitting at the place where the discussion was happening. The surroundings were well known to me from my childhood. Adam was racing around talking and Esther was calmly listening to him. Mind you, I mostly, listen to the podcasts at 1.30x speed, maybe that was the reason Adam was racing around. I even had a sense that we belonged to different communities and that we were sitting having an intellectual and helpful discussion- Esther being Adam’s mom in the dream. I have never heard or listened to her before, but thinking about it now, I see why she appeared as a young Mom in the dream probably in her late 30s or early 40s. I think the ages in the dream denotes the level of wisdom for each person according to the discussion that is ongoing. Hence why, I was a kid with the least wisdom when compared to Adam and Esther. Haha so I wasn’t really praising myself, rather acknowledging my level of wisdom and intellect. 35 mins into the podcast, I woke up and realised I was listening to the podcast and I had fallen asleep. So, I looked to see which episode it was on and who the speakers were. Listening to the rest of it till the end, wide awake, I could make sense of why the dream appeared in such a form. It was like a therapy session from wise mother giving advice about relationships, trust and admitting the wrongs and all the good stuff. I even remembered my responses that I was thinking of in my head in the dream. Hahaha

I think because I have read a lot of their work and listened to their books, thatโ€™s the reason, I can learn from them even when I am sleeping. Have you ever had a similar learning experience? Itโ€™ll be cool to hear of your dream learning experience.

Until next time,

Sweet dreams