It has certainly been a while since I have written any new posts. Life has gotten in the way. Most of it is just an excuse and less of it is laziness. I am glad that I did not break the habit out of laziness.
So, what post have I got up my sleeve this time? What new tricks have I learnt? Or rather skills?
Not learnt anything new. In fact, not even read any books. I started listening to “The beekeeper of Aleppo” on audible. I got quite a few books to go through. I took a break from nearly everything. Perhaps to reset, find balance once more. I am obsessed with balance because most of my life has been a seesaw, an emotional one, a challenging one, the one that constantly shifts weight on either extremes. This being the reason why I am continually trying to find balance when I find myself fortunately and many a times unfortunately, on one of the extreme ends.
Writing everything down helps me find mental clarity. Like talking to a therapist helps me find clarity of thoughts.
I write while I watch the sun set. I am glad that aside all other disruptions and obstacles, I have continued to stay connected to nature. If anything the change of environment has been helpful. It has helped me appreciate blessings, appreciate friends who I keep in touch with and with whom I have not been in contact for a while. It has helped me to be grateful that life still has many opportunities to offer.
Do I sound like a glass half full kind of person right now? While I am most certainly quite optimistic, I am aware of the reality of things surrounding me.
We make things difficult and complicated for ourselves. All the complexities, they stem from me. I guess that means I am still in the process of figuring things out. I still have a lot to learn, I still have a lot of wisdom to gain. Perhaps, when I am wiser, I can say that life is simple.
Where are you in your life right now? Do you see it as simple? Or do you see life as complex? Do you challenge yourself to new goals? Or do you seek comfort in the monotonous routine?
If you aren’t interested in the title of the book Think Again. You might want to reconsider and duh Think Again!
Or realistically speaking at least check out the last chapter Actions for impact and then listen to the prologue. It will just make you want to listen or read the whole book. I am just saying this for those who might not be interested in this book. Personally, I am a big fan of Adam Grant’s work. I won’t say that I know all of his work but some of it has helped me think and think again, and that doesn’t just go for this book.
So, here’s the 5 Things I think I got out from the book.
1. Instead of asking why? Question yourself how?
The Why can more often than not, make you fall into a deep rabbit hole and instead of seeking out new ways to do things. You deepen your reasons for your beliefs and embed them in your subconscious.
2. Out of the boxing thinking is difficult because it exposes you and sheds your identity. Refer to the firefighter example mentioned in the epilogue.
3. To persuade others, it’s better to ask rational questions that help see the situation through different lenses and big picture views than piling up the facts alone. Lesson from the 8 year old in Think Again.
4. Less is more! It’s better to have 3 days of solid work out routine rather than 7 days of sub par days. It’s better to have 3 focused hours of deliberate practise than 7 hours of gruelling underperformance.
5. Coaching involves helping others reach their own decisions, it’s not about trying to dictate or control other person’s decisions. Great mentors, coaches and motivational speakers are better listeners. They know how to listen and respond with appropriate questions. They guide others by empowering them with knowledge, self-discovery and helping others reach their own conclusions rather than providing them with answers or suggesting what others ought to do.
There’s much more in this book. In this moment however, these 5 ideas can help me ask the right questions of myself and those around me, in order to improve and overcome fear and anxiety.
Image Credit: Bookcover Think Again
So as promised, I have been wanting to share my booklist. In this booklist, I will share the books that have helped me with psychology and self-development. I don’t read 52 books a year like an average CEO, but I do think I read quite a lot for my lifestyle. I listen more than I read. By the way, if you are a blog reader, I talk about a lot of different books in my blogs too…you just have to be willing to read and find the diamonds among the pile of treasure 😉 haha… am not for self-praise but you see what I done there 😀
Anyhow, if you want to grow, develop your character, learn more about yourself, your business, or even just reflect on life and understand the world through different perspectives. I would recommend checking out these books. These are my top favourites in psychology/ self-development genre not in any particular order though.
- The Examined Life ( How we lose and find ourselves) by Stephen Grosz
- The Chimp Paradox by Prof Steve Peters
- Option B By Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant (I am a big fan of Adam Grant’s work)
- Give and Take by Adam Grant (You see what I mean lol)
- Originals by Adam Grant ( on my wish list is his latest book Think Again)
- Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins
- Principles by Ray Dalio
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
- Deep Work by Cal Newport
- Focus by Daniel Goleman ( I am a big fan of Daniel Goleman’s work on EQ)
- Primal Leadership by Daniel Goleman
- Maximum Willpower by Kelly McGonigal
- The Crowd Study of the Popular mind By Gustave Le Bon
- How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie
- A Hero with a Thousand Faces (Joseph Campbell) I know this is philosophy genre, but there is a lot to learn from this book.
- Thus Spoke Zarathustra by Friedrich Nietzsche
- Beyond Good and Evil by Friedrich Nietzsche
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy by Jason M. Satterfield
- Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman ( This is a classic)
- Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza
- 12 Rules for Life by Jordan B Peterson
- Maps of Meaning by Jordan B Peterson
Instead of including any external links, I will let you search for these books. Most are available on Amazon, Audible, Waterstones or any other book store. I have some of the above books in hard copy and some in audible version. Basically the easiest way to get them in possession ahaha. Nietzsche is quite difficult to comprehend but there is value there to be found if you keep an open mind. They say there is a thin line between insanity and a genius mind. Wow… these are just some of the books I have read since 2018. Before that I used to read fiction only.
I stopped reading fiction for a while, but I still do from time to time. Maybe next time I will share some of my favourite fictional novels.
While you are here, check out my previous post on How to read a book 📖