5 Tips to Revert Back To Being The Old You

Currently I am going through a deep process of rewiring my subconscious and unconscious minds. Think of this process as slowly learning to shed old shell and growing a new one. Or imagine how a caterpillar evolves into a butterfly. Or just imagine how Pikachu evolves to Raichu, not that I am a Pokemon. The mind is limitless, the vastness of our minds allow us to improve continually and seek out discomfort for accelerated learning.

On the contrary our minds; the subconscious and unconscious selves, are also resistant to change. This resistance can halt the process of evolution and growth and seek comfort where there is psychological safety. Where there is a safe space, where there are accepted and embedded beliefs, actions and thought patterns.

If you want easy tips to revert back to being your old self, just follow these 5 simple tips:

1. Sleep excessively

2. Stop exercising

3. Get lazy and stop looking after your mind and body.

4. Ignore your spiritual needs. Stop meditating

5. All of above will grow your doubts enough that you abandon going after your latent potential.

This is a message for myself first. In the past couple of weeks I have stopped exercising, stopped stretching, stopped running. I have been oversleeping. I have a poor sleep pattern. I have poor discipline and eating habits. If I stay any longer this way, I will be sure to revert back to being the old me. But wait, I am trying to think now what that old self was like? Does this imply I am close to turning into a butterfly? That said, there are periods when I am lazy and unproductive.

Hope is something you give yourself in the darkest times. Balance

Sometimes it’s through these slumps and picking myself back up from them that helps me accept that there will be more periods where I may not want to write, may not want to exercise, may not want to meditate.

Instead of going down the rabbit hole of asking myself, Why am I like this during these periods? I should start asking myself, how can I do a little better tomorrow? How can I create a new idea for a blog post? How can I refuel my energy to exercise and meditate?

By asking How? I can then think of What action I can take?

Humans are complex creatures. We make all the easy things difficult for ourselves. We continue to seek out motivation, we continue to seek out the reasons why? The Why can be the reason for doing or not doing, it can be the reason for the cause effect relation, it can be the reason for seeking certainty amidst uncertainty. If we can learn to embrace the uncertainty, we can rid ourselves of The Why and learn to be in the present and seek out The How and The What?

A light bulb 💡 moment. I don’t do this enough. I am going to find things that I am grateful for, look back see the progress so far, look back and see what % of the time I have been sticking to the process. Look back and see % of errors. Be grateful for the progress and process and continue to refine it. Most of all be grateful. If anything the only thing I have really stopped doing in the past 2 months is writing down things that I am grateful for. Got to get back on track. Life is a blessing when you can find gratitude in your heart and in the blessings surrounding you.

5 Things I Learnt From The Book ‘Think Again’

If you aren’t interested in the title of the book Think Again. You might want to reconsider and duh Think Again!

Or realistically speaking at least check out the last chapter Actions for impact and then listen to the prologue. It will just make you want to listen or read the whole book. I am just saying this for those who might not be interested in this book. Personally, I am a big fan of Adam Grant’s work. I won’t say that I know all of his work but some of it has helped me think and think again, and that doesn’t just go for this book.

So, here’s the 5 Things I think I got out from the book.

1. Instead of asking why? Question yourself how?

The Why can more often than not, make you fall into a deep rabbit hole and instead of seeking out new ways to do things. You deepen your reasons for your beliefs and embed them in your subconscious.

2. Out of the boxing thinking is difficult because it exposes you and sheds your identity. Refer to the firefighter example mentioned in the epilogue.

3. To persuade others, it’s better to ask rational questions that help see the situation through different lenses and big picture views than piling up the facts alone. Lesson from the 8 year old in Think Again.

4. Less is more! It’s better to have 3 days of solid work out routine rather than 7 days of sub par days. It’s better to have 3 focused hours of deliberate practise than 7 hours of gruelling underperformance.

5. Coaching involves helping others reach their own decisions, it’s not about trying to dictate or control other person’s decisions. Great mentors, coaches and motivational speakers are better listeners. They know how to listen and respond with appropriate questions. They guide others by empowering them with knowledge, self-discovery and helping others reach their own conclusions rather than providing them with answers or suggesting what others ought to do.

There’s much more in this book. In this moment however, these 5 ideas can help me ask the right questions of myself and those around me, in order to improve and overcome fear and anxiety. 

Image Credit: Bookcover Think Again

Body, Soul and The Mind- 2

Few Mondays ago I posted a poem with the same title. I wanted to elaborate on why I wrote it and how are the body, soul and the mind intertwined.

Self-awareness is to be able to observe one’s behaviour whether in real-time which takes a lot of practice, or through hindsight. In addition, dissecting the emotions away from the thoughts and behaviours. So that we can look down from above. An objective view.

Metacognition is the ability to change one’s emotional state through thoughts. Our minds and limbic system doesn’t know the difference between emotions that are felt through real life experiences or the ones we feel by daydreaming or visualizing an event and emotions before the event happens. Feelings influence thoughts, similarly thoughts influence feelings. When feeling the emotions that we don’t want to feel, the research in psychology suggests, we should replace those feelings with positive feelings. Visualisation is powerful technique that can help us anchor our being in a state of calmness and joy amidst discomfort and adversity.

Chronic stress is a stress response that is built in the body over a long period of time. A chronic stress response when triggered is difficult to control as the chemicals released when in any situation that triggers chronic stress, are the natural state of the body. The body goes into the fight, flight or freeze response, cortisol and adrenaline kicks in, heart beat pumps up and the person loses control over their thought process/rational thinking and emotions. As a result, the individual is likely to make poor decisions and underperform. It’s a self-sabotaging mechanism. For many individuals, if they do not address instant stress then there is a greater likelihood of chronic stress getting triggered.

I have a lot of unfinished articles laying about in the drafts. Despite knowing theory and believing that I am emotionally intelligent, emotional self-awareness in real time can be quite challenging to actualise, especially in high performance situations/sports. But such challenges also give us an opportunity to grow.

So, having explained those terms that I think link the mind body and soul, I will refer back to this diagram I drew when I wrote about the ego.

Ego, heart and mind connection

Heart and brain coherence can be observed scientifically through exposing people to different situations that will trigger a response and the ability of those people via meditation/breathing techniques to remain calm. Exposure and deliberate practise is one of the ways to develop heart and mind coherence.

How the heart beats when under stress and when there is a shift to appreciation

Conscious breathing is a great tool and anchor to shift to appreciation when feeling stress. Wim Hof has proven scientifically how he can control his body temperature under cold stress through breathing technique. It unlocks the potential of mind, it taps into the ancestral genes that lie dormant within us. Joseph Campbell in the ‘Heroes with a Thousand Faces’ describes the many journeys of the hero. The archetypal journey of hero is full of challenges, stress and obstacles. That is the nature’s way of nurturing the potential of the hero.

It is possible to reach the highest state of consciousness and keeping in mind the struggles of ego as presented above, the rhythm of the heart and breathing technique to consciously shift to a state of appreciation. Practising this over and over can help release all the trauma, stress and dispel negativity. Below are the emotions and how they rank on the spectrum. The elevated emotions on the upper end and the limiting emotions on the other end. The elevated emotions are selfless and also the creative emotions. The limiting emotions are survival emotions which keep the mind, body and soul pinned in a scarce surrounding. There is no room for growth in feeling these emotions. Growth starts when one replaces the limiting emotions with elevated emotions. Deliberate practise through focus, meditation and breathing technique can help reach a higher state of consciousness. One of abundance, one of gratitude, one of appreciation.

Where are you on the wavelength?

Which frequency are you tapping into? Is your mind constantly bombarded with beta waves? Do you rest and sleep to energise yourself? In our sleep, our mind goes into the slower theta waves. With deliberate daily practise of breathing and meditation, it is possible to access to slow down the brains waves to gamma frequency and access higher consciousness. Traditional meditational practises of different religions have proven this. Although, it is not an easy thing to achieve, it is not impossible.

Instead of describing the different frequencies of brain waves, here’s a link to a short video of a crash course on brain waves. How they help us achieve higher consciousness! how it can help us open the path to new possibilities!

This is an explanation via what I have learnt from studying psychology, a little bit of neuroscience and reading and practising meditation. If you are not a science person, refer to my previous article Affairs of the heart. In there you will find other techniques and meditations, if practised with deliberate focus, those techniques can help you get near the path of higher consciousness.