Balance

The Chaos Within! Conflicts, Ego, Despair, Fear, Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Rage, Resensentment

These are some words that make up our actions, feelings and thoughts when there is chaos within.

I will mention here two ways of dealing with the chaos within. I am sharing from accumulated experiences and learnt knowledge through courses, books and articles.

When faced with curve balls that life throws at you, you gotta get better at swinging the bat. However, unlike baseball you’re not out after 3 strikes. Life will always give you another chance, another path, another opportunity to face its challenges. You can either try get to the root cause of the issues to deal with the chaos within, or you can work towards solutions; purposely neglecting the root causes, however, leveraging what resources you can summon to work out a way. If both done together, it can work wonders. Counselling and therapy can help you get to the root causes. Designing and implementing solutions is in your hands.

An example, I can reflect on the past or present and try dissect the root causes, however, done alone, you will have blind spots that you cannot see; perspectives and errors that miss your way of dealing with issues. Help from others who truly care or a professional can be the right way to move forwards.

An example, one solution to find balance and resolve this chaos is through sports activities such as running, football or martial arts. However, you have to implement the solution. Taking small actions and celebrating small progress. Compounding and building up from a foundation of your design that fits you.

What you can influence is 1) how you react to the situations 2) spheres of life in your control. If you believe in God like myself, it can help to know that the ultimate control is with God.

Before you can set out to bring balance to the world, you must find balance within yourself. Harmony and in tune.

[You must never give in to despair. Allow yourself to slip down that road and you will surrender yourself to your lowest instincts. In the darkest times, hope is something you give yourself. That is the meaning of inner strength. You are not alone. Never fall into the trap that you have to face all your problems alone, without anyone’s support. There is nothing wrong with letting people who love you, help you. While it is important to always believe in oneself, a little help from others can be a great blessing.It is important to draw wisdom from many different places. If we take it from one place, it becomes rigid and stale. Understanding others will help you become whole. There is nothing wrong with a life you want to live, but I suggest, you ask yourself, what is it that you want from life and why? Quotes of wisdom from Iroh- Avatar: The last airbender.

Destiny is often a funny thing, often imposed on us by our environment/surroundings/expectations. Learn to think independently and make choices that reflect hope, wholeness and prosperity. To do this, you have to look inwards and begin asking yourself the big question. The purpose of life, what is it you want from it? What brings you fulfillment?] –

One of the things that brought balance in my life is martial arts. I decided to join martial arts while I was going through some of the toughest tests of life. Oh! and it saved me, truly. Prayers alone then, were not enough. Although, they kept me away from falling further into chaos and directed me towards the better choice of joining martial arts. I am truly grateful to have been blessed even in difficult times. I share this, so that you can find paths that lead to better choices too.

In my next post, I will elaborate on the practice of martial arts. The martials arts I have practised over the years are Taekwondo, Kickboxing and some BJJ. Taekwondo being my main arts. It brought discipline and routine in my life. Aside that, it provided me with increased focus and attention which led me to complete my education. Self-studying was daunting but made easy because I studied and practised martial arts. I will mention though, it didn’t just happen overnight, after 2 years of not missing a martial arts class, I was disciplined and focused enough to do it.

I am updating this blog by sharing an article and study done by the professionals in field of psychology. This article is written by Dr. Brett Steenbarger titled “How to overcome major life setbacks“.

Until my next post,

Be good.

p.s. I haven’t forgotten to update the history blog. I am making progress with summaries.